I recently had a rather enlightening conversation with someone close to the family, which sparked a special revelation in me. It got me pondering—yes, really pondering. I've often spoken about how apathy is the silent killer of the soul. What was once a temporary way to disconnect has insidiously morphed into a permanent shield to keep our emotional selves sheltered and unharmed. Here are some Temper Control Tips
When it comes to managing our tempers, we need to understand one crucial thing: we're human. Shocking, I know. We’re going to slip from time to time, and it’s essential to realize what those slips might cost us in the long run.
Now, let’s dive into the gritty reality of grief—whether it’s over a loved one, a situation, or a relationship. We often use it as a justification to hurl terrible things at people. It's like an emotional get-out-of-jail-free card. But let’s hone in on why we say those hurtful things when we’re upset. While this may not make it much better, it might help you understand a little better.
People say hurtful shit sometimes to relieve their own pain.
Yep, you read that right. Sometimes, people throw verbal grenades for no real motive other than they are completely overwhelmed. It’s like emotional word vomit. While it used to genuinely hurt me when someone poked at an insecurity during an argument or disagreement, I've learned to do a few things when faced with a person who is trying their best to hurt me.
**Don't Feed Into the Negativity**
This is really fucking hard. I’m not going to lie. It really sucks sometimes, and the level of suckage you might feel will be entirely dependent on how well the person knows you. It’s never pleasant to have someone hurl insults your way, no matter the excuse. But the best way to curb the sweet release that tickles our tongues when we want to say some hurtful shit back is to simply walk away. Don’t play the game.
Feeding into the negativity they’re throwing your way will only give them cause to their imaginary vindication and reasoning to attack you more. Not allowing it to consume you and drag you to the level they’re feeling will feel a lot better in the long term. At the end of the day, if someone is hurting on the inside, everything will feel like a valid reason to talk to someone horribly.
I can say truly, as of current: I don’t care about anything in my life that is petty, cruel, or unusually extra. If someone is coming into my environment with those things, I always think the best policy is to advise them of one very prominent rule about my environment...
Keep the drama outside, please. I’m too busy thriving and maintaining my peace to entertain anything less.
So, let’s keep our tempers in check, our words kind, and our environments drama-free. Trust me, your future self will thank you.
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